I hang out by myself a lot. Some of my friends think it’s weird, but honestly I’ve realized that sometimes if you want to do something you have to do it alone. Whether you feel like treating yourself or you just want to get your ass out of the house and all your friends are busy, taking yourself on a sexy solo date is kind of the ultimate indulgence… at least, I think so.
I know it feels awkward sometimes, but honestly… it’s okay. Even if you get a little nervous or awkward or uncomfortable. It’s all cool baby. Not everything has to be a group activity — not all the time.
If you’re ready to dip your toes into the world of solo hangs then this post is for you. Here are my five favourite solo dates to go on.
I promise once you get used to it you’ll never want to stop.
coffee. Coffee is first on the list because it’s the easiest, and also because I just… love coffee? It’s cheap, it’s simple, and literally no one thinks it’s a weird thing to do by yourself. Grab a book, a journal, or your laptop (maybe all three?) and set out on a mission to find the cutest, coziest cafe in your neighbourhood. If you’re in Toronto try out literally any Jimmy’s — they’re all the cutest. I frequent the one in Kensington (everything in Kensington is so kitschy and fun), but the cutest one is probably the one at Ossington and Queen. I also love love love The Common on Bloor W (and it’s, like, half the price of Starbucks).
hit a concert. Okay, people act like this is a crazy thing to do alone but honestly it’s perfect. Think about it — once the music starts you can’t talk to anyone anyway. If you’re on your own you don’t have to worry about losing your friends in the crowd, or embarrassing yourself with your extremely off-key singing. It’s easier to work your way to the front when you’re alone. And anyway if you go to enough small local shows you start to see some familiar faces. Since I’ve lived in Toronto I’ve probably gone to a dozen shows by myself and I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.
get your beach on. Sometimes it’s really nice to just put on your cute bikini, slap on a big floppy hat and some sunscreen, and lie in the sun……. alone. Bring a book or a trashy magazine (or I guess a non-trashy magazine, if you really must), and work on that tan, girl. Don’t forget to pack snacks.
museums + art galleries for days. One of the things I was most excited about when I moved to Toronto was the abundance of galleries and museums that I’d finally have access to. One problem? None of my friends are quite as enthralled. I guess when you grow up here, going to the museum sounds less like an awesome adventure and more like your third grade field trip. Anyway, museums and galleries are sick by yourself because you don’t have to look at anything you don’t want to, you don’t have to leave anywhere you’re not ready to leave, and you can walk as slow or as fast as you want. Feel like reading every plaque under every painting? Guess what – that is your perogative.
take yourself out for brunch. Yep. This is at the end of the list because I know it’s the hardest. Even for me, an experienced self-date-r. It’s kind of scary to eat alone because what can you really occupy yourself with when you have a plate of eggs benny in front of you? First of all, the answer is eavesdropping. But second of all, who cares? I usually bring my laptop to “get some work done” (what does this even mean? everyone knows I’m just scrolling through twitter. I don’t have an adult job.) or maybe a book. At least that way everyone gets the message that I planned to go alone. The first time is scary, but I promise you it’s really lovely. You can chat up your server, spy on people, and eat a delicious meal. I don’t know why but brunch is my favourite meal to eat alone — and if you go on a weekday you’ll probably have the place mostly to yourself. OH, and for the record? I’m writing this from one of my fave Parkdale brunch spots, Easy, and there are three other people also here by themselves.
Honestly guys… you can do this. It might make you nervous, but once you start you won’t want to stop. And hey, if you feel awkward, just do what I do – fake it. That’s all anyone’s really doing at any given time, isn’t it?
happy sunday!! – L