SOLO DATES are the best dates.

I hang out by myself a lot.  Some of my friends think it’s weird, but honestly I’ve realized that sometimes if you want to do something you have to do  it alone.  Whether you feel like treating yourself or you just want to get your ass out of the house and all your friends are busy, taking yourself on a sexy solo date is kind of the ultimate indulgence… at least, I think so.

I know it feels awkward sometimes, but honestly… it’s okay.  Even if you get a little nervous or awkward or uncomfortable.  It’s all cool baby.  Not everything has to be a group activity — not all the time.

If you’re ready to dip your toes into the world of solo hangs then this post is for you.  Here are my five favourite solo dates to go on.

I promise once you get used to it you’ll never want to stop.

coffee.  Coffee is first on the list because it’s the easiest, and also because I just… love coffee?  It’s cheap, it’s simple, and literally no one thinks it’s a weird thing to do by yourself.  Grab a book, a journal, or your laptop (maybe all three?) and set out on a mission to find the cutest, coziest cafe in your neighbourhood.  If you’re in Toronto try out literally any Jimmy’s — they’re all the cutest.  I frequent the one in Kensington (everything in Kensington is so kitschy and fun), but the cutest one is probably the one at Ossington and Queen.  I also love love love The Common on Bloor W (and it’s, like, half the price of Starbucks).

hit a concert.  Okay, people act like this is a crazy thing to do alone but honestly it’s perfect.  Think about it — once the music starts you can’t talk to anyone anyway.  If you’re on your own you don’t have to worry about losing your friends in the crowd, or embarrassing yourself with your extremely off-key singing.  It’s easier to work your way to the front when you’re alone.  And anyway if you go to enough small local shows you start to see some familiar faces.  Since I’ve lived in Toronto I’ve probably gone to a dozen shows by myself and I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.

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I saw Real Friends a month ago (alone) and they were AMAZING.

get your beach on.  Sometimes it’s really nice to just put on your cute bikini, slap on a big floppy hat and some sunscreen, and lie in the sun……. alone.  Bring a book or a trashy magazine (or I guess a non-trashy magazine, if you really must), and work on that tan, girl.  Don’t forget to pack snacks.

 

museums + art galleries for days.  One of the things I was most excited about when I moved to Toronto was the abundance of galleries and museums that I’d finally have access to.  One problem?  None of my friends are quite as enthralled.  I guess when you grow up here, going to the museum sounds less like an awesome adventure and more like your third grade field trip.  Anyway, museums and galleries are sick by yourself because you don’t have to look at anything you don’t want to, you don’t have to leave anywhere you’re not ready to leave, and you can walk as slow or as fast as you want.  Feel like reading every plaque under every painting?  Guess what – that is your perogative.

take yourself out for brunch.  Yep. This is at the end of the list because I know it’s the hardest.  Even for me, an experienced self-date-r.  It’s kind of scary to eat alone because what can you really occupy yourself with when you have a plate of eggs benny in front of you?  First of all, the answer is eavesdropping.  But second of all, who cares?  I usually bring my laptop to “get some work done” (what does this even mean?  everyone knows I’m just scrolling through twitter.  I don’t have an adult job.) or maybe a book.  At least that way everyone gets the message that I planned to go alone.  The first time is scary, but I promise you it’s really lovely.  You can chat up your server, spy on people, and eat a delicious meal.  I don’t know why but brunch is my favourite meal to eat alone — and if you go on a weekday you’ll probably have the place mostly to yourself.  OH, and for the record?  I’m writing this from one of my fave Parkdale brunch spots, Easy, and there are three other people also here by themselves.

Honestly guys… you can do this.  It might make you nervous, but once you start you won’t want to stop.  And hey, if you feel awkward, just do what I do – fake it.  That’s all anyone’s really doing at any given time, isn’t it?

happy sunday!!  – L

SWMRS are your new fave band.

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GUYS, we haven’t talked about music in so long.

To be honest, we haven’t talked, period, in so long… but hey, life happens.  I’ll tell you all about it in a few.

First, though, let me just tell you that if you, like me, have been living under a giant rock recently… you need to jump on the bandwagon with these guys – they’re called SWMRS.  They put a gritty, edgy twist on pop-punk – or maybe a sweet, sun-drenched, melodic twist on regular punk?  Hard to say exactly what it is, but I’m into it either way.

Check out their last album Drive North on spotify and let me know what you think!

xx – L

 

MUSIC: today is the best day.

TODAY, my dear friends, is the BEST DAY for music.

PARAMORE, my all time favourite band, have finally released their new album After Laughter and I am OBSESSED.  Very 80s pop-y, perfect for angry car dancing/singing, and Hayley’s voice just keeps getting better and better.  PLEASE listen to it, you need this in your life.  I’ve been listening to it all day, and especially find myself going back to Grudges, Rose-Colored Boy, and Caught In The Middle.  JAMS.

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And then as if that weren’t enough – Harry Styles???  What is he doing.  Why is he so incredible.

His solo debut (imaginatively named Harry Styles), is full of various vintage rock vibes,

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me too, Harry.

hipster swag, and… I think I heard a mandolin?  Just incredible.  PLUS maybe I’m a little biased but I love the album cover.  Not only do I love topless Harry Styles, but I too love to lie in massive pools of rose coloured water, wearing expensive necklaces and listening to classic rock on vinyl (which is what I imagine was happening when he took the photos that became the album artwork).

In between rocking the new paramore album I’ve been cranking up Carolina, Meet Me In The Hallway, and Woman.

Have you been jamming as hard as I have today?  Tell me your favourite tunes!

I’m currently sitting in the airport in Victoria, waiting to board my flight home.  I’m nervous – I have a connection to make and less than five minutes between my first flight landing and my second flight boarding – but cross your fingers for me.  I don’t know what happens if you miss a flight and I truly do not want to find out.

cheers to the weekend!

x – L

SUMMER 2K17

Remember all that stuff about change?  turns out I wasn’t joking.

Since my last blog post I’ve finished school, moved into my friend’s apartment (sleeping on her couch this summer seemed so romantic and adventurous in theory), changed my hair colour (yes, I do miss red already), and of course made all sorts of BIG SUMMER PLANS.

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April 25th was the one year anniversary of me living in Toronto – and the city for sure has my heart.

I do this every summer – and I think I write about it every summer too.  THIS IS THE ONE, you know?  I’m going to do YOGA and kiss BOYS and drink GREEN JUICE… or whatever.  Only this year I’m taking a different approach.  This summer I’m just going to do me.

I texted my friend Kelly a few days ago: “plans for this summer: wearing less and going out more”.  That’s IT.  And sure I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a SUMMER 2K17 sticky note on my laptop with things I want to do (make jewellery, go on more dates, keep an epic summer journal, blog like a real blogger), but those really are things that I want to do.  I want to be creative and meet more people and make more things.

The reason I haven’t posted in so long is because I didn’t want to log back onto wordpress until I had made a real editorial calendar and planned things and focussed and blah blah blah… but honestly?  that is very much not in the spirit of MOMPUNK, the spirit of me or the spirit of my summer.

how am I doing me this summer?

More concerts.  More art.  More time outside.  More coffee.  More wine.  More nights out.  More “yes”.  More opening up.  More exploring new places.  More writing.  More being honest with people.  More being honest with myself.

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speaking of more concerts… saw The Maine recently – my mind is blown.

 

Surprise, surprise – the blog this season will reflect all of those things.  I wanna talk about how to have your best summer ever while remaining a real human.  Y’know, one who has no money, who doesn’t actually have that many days off, and who has rolls when she bends over.  One who occasionally sleeps, admits she hates running, and doesn’t (CAN’T!) always stick to her schedule.  This summer we’re going to talk about learning to love your tummy, lilac lipstick, summer date ideas (can’t write this until I go on some dates), at home pedicures, and my endless attempt at conquering fake lashes.  And hey, who knows what else?  I sure as hell don’t – still flying by the seat of my pants.

Speaking of my pants, they are now unbuttoned (lots of Chinese food was had today), and I’m drinking my favourite herbal tea so that must mean it’s time for a bit of netflix and sleep!!  Hope you’re all as excited as I am for some SUNSHINE!!  Wish I was a little closer to the ocean, but for now I have some pretty impressive lakes to keep me company instead.

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all my summer lovin’ to u,

-L

MUSIC: the Maine

 

themaineGUYS, yesterday I bought myself the best present EVER… Tickets to see the Maine on April 25th on their Lovely Little Lonely tour!  I haven’t gone to a concert since last summer, so it’s TIME, y’all.

Anyway, I’ve loved the Maine for years, but this last album is shaping up to be the best yet.  Angsty as always, fast and dance-able, and my favourite album artwork in a long time.  The first song they released off of it, Bad Behaviour, was like the ultimate throwback to the good ol’ emo days, and Black Butterflies and Deja Vu, aka my current obsession, is unlike anything else I’ve heard before.  I.  LOVE.  IT.  Then today they released a song called Do You Remember (the other half of 23).  Guess what?  It’s also perfect.

The new album is out on April 7th, and until then they’re posting clips of the songs as a count down on their instagram – definitely follow them if you don’t already.

so?  thoughts on the new tunes?  thoughts on anything at all?  how’s like?  love me, pay attention to me.

xx – L

MUSIC: there’s a new all time low song and I am LIVING!!

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GUYS it has been a long long long time coming, but today a new All Time Low song came out and I am LIVING for it!!!  yes yes yes YESSS the boys are back.

I’m struggling to say anything remotely intelligent about this because right now my brain is mostly just like “!!!!!!!”.  I really like the direction they’re going though, the song is different but still distinctly All Time Low – the lyrics are, as always, 100% on point, and the video is full of spooky lighting, blank stares, and Alex driving a vintage mustang (I fear that I am not selling it very well but I promise it’s sick).

ALSO, “young renegades”.  New album name????

I was always kind of obsessed with the word “renegade”, ever since Paramore did the singles club and put out their song renegade.  It’s the most basic and predictable pop-punk theme but it’s just so relatable (especially for my little Sagittarius heart) that it gets me every time.

Speaking of Paramore!  All Time Low also announced that they’ve been signed to Fuelled By Ramen for the last year and kept it a secret (rude).  But seriously, fbr has basically all the biggest bands in “the scene” – Paramore, Panic! At The Disco, Twenty One Pilots… Fall Out Boy at one point, yes? – and now All Time Low is officially on the roster.  Exciting!

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(my new phone background courtesy of atl’s insta)

ANYWAY, sorry for this excessively rambly and excited post – it’s not even a monday!  But I have had a lot of coffee, and there is new music from one of my favourite bands in this whole entire universe, so it’s a good day for me.  AND next week is reading week.

Life! Is! Good!

On that note, I’m off to campus to write a midterm.  I have a good feeling about it, so please send me all of your luck and good vibes.  If you haven’t heard the new song/seen the new video, check it out here and let me know what you think!!

tgif ❤ – L

MUSIC MONDAY: hopeless + romantic.

 

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so cute and so real?

well my loves, it’s here (at least, almost).  Tomorrow (aka 45 minutes from now) is Valentines Day, and I feel…. conflicted?

I think I feel this way every year, honestly – like I want to be positive and cute and excited about love, but I’m also kind of grumpy and lonely and over the whole damn thing.  I don’t really hate valentines day – I’m mostly pretty apathetic to it, really.  But I’d be lying if I said I enjoyed all the proclamations of endless love clogging up my instagram feed.

For the record, I don’t think this has a lot to do with the fact that I’m single – even when I was in a relationship I found grand romantic gestures to be a little… cringe-worthy.
Sorry bro, but you are not Ryan Gosling and therefore can not pull off Ryan Gosling moves, ya know?

Anyway, I threw together a little playlist for your listening pleasure – songs that are both romantic and depressing, just like this time of year.  Some of the songs are totally sappy and love-y, others are more in the “pining” category, and honestly some are probably not relevant and I just felt like they fit the vibe.  SO, yeah, here’s that.

Just for the record, I’m really loving the first song, Shut Up Kiss Me by Angel Olson – I heard it the other night in the credits of the show Easy, and was obsessed immediately.  Also loving Gimme All Your Love by Alabama Shakes, and of course Remembering Sunday by All Time Low is one of my favourite love songs ever (has anyone seen all the weird upside down logo business going on on their website/twitter?  spoopy).

On that note I just took a Melatonin for the first time ever and I’m pretty sure I’m about to pass the heck out, so I’ll talk to you soon.  Happy Valentines Day!  I hope you all treat yourself to a little extra love today, whether you have a lover or nah.

x’s and o’s – L