MOVIES: the spectacular now.

Oh my god, GUYS… you have to watch The Spectacular Now.

As usual, I’m late to the party on this movie – I’m not really a big movie watcher, if I’m being honest.  I don’t know why; I waste more than a few hours on tv shows.  But something about them seems like a big commitment.  It’s like you’re going to see a whole story play out.  It’s kind of exhausting.

tumblr_ms8xf2s8zu1seg3pxo1_400
I! just! love! him!

This movie was extra exhausting tbh, because oh my god it hit home.  It was just so… cute and painful and real.  The story follows a boy named Sutter (played by Miles Teller *heart eyes*) through his final year of high school.  It’s kind of your classic crazy-party-boy-meets-sweet-good-girl story, only there is actual depth to the characters.  They’re lovable but they’re flawed – awkward, even.  It’s definitely not all roses.

 

I have always been a big fan of coming-of-age tales, but lately I find

tumblr_mxznf4nr3s1qfzrluo1_250them a little bit depressing.  I think it’s because I’ve kind of already come of age.  I’m 21 – if I haven’t learnt how to say fuck you! to the people who hold me back by now then maybe that’s just not a lesson I’m going to learn.  It’s going to take a lot more than a sexy badboy to help me understand that I’m beautiful (probably – although I’d be willing to test the theory if any sexy badboys would like to volunteer).  No one is coming along to teach me how to love and be loved in return.
Is that such a bad thing?  Probably not.  Maybe you don’t grow up when you meet a cute boy who changes everything; maybe you grow up when you change everything yourself.  After all I don’t think I grew up when I had my first drink or lost my virginity – if anything I grew up when I realized that I didn’t have to drink until I passed out, or throw myself at every guy with sad eyes and pretty hands.  Is growing up the painful moments – or the moments you figure out how to make things less painful?

I dunno – mostly just rambling now (as usual).

What’s your favourite coming-of-age movie?  And what about a story from your real life?  Was it all romance and epic parties and riding on the backs of motorcycles with boys your parents hated?  I hope so.

till next time, – L

MOVIES: get happy.

I’ve been putting off this post for two days now because I want my first one of 2017 to be special and I just didn’t know what to write about – nothing on my sticky note spoke to me.  Nothing said this is how you should kick off your year.  Then today I watched Happy and I knew exactly what to write about.

2017 is the year I get happy.

Happy is a documentary – one that my mom told me to watch ages ago.  Have you noticed she recommends all the good stuff to me?  It’s about – you guessed it – happiness; what makes us happy?  What matters in life?

Throughout the documentary, there are interviews with people from all around the world; an old man in India, a debutante who was disfigured when she was run over by a truck, a tribe in Africa, some old ladies from a tiny Japanese community, and a man who lived on the Bayou.  There are also interviews with psychologists, discussing the science of happiness.  The moral of the story?  It doesn’t matter how thin and beautiful and rich you are.  None of that will bring you happiness.

What does bring happiness?  Strong social circles, for one – in fact I remember being taught in a sociology class that isolation can be as bad for your health as smoking.  Meditating on loving kindness and compassion was one of the best ways to cultivate happiness.

Flow brings happiness, too – when you get so caught up in what you’re doing that you’re completely lost in it.  Sometimes this happens to me when I write; it can also happen to people when they cook, exercise, or even go to work.

Overall the best way to be happy is to practice.  Practice gratitude; practice loving kindness and compassion.  Practice having fun, and laughing… practice enjoying.  Who knows – maybe one day it will just come naturally!

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit, but I’m going to try for 100.  Today I started a new journal – one that is for only happy thoughts.  Every day for the next 100 days I want to write about the things that I’m grateful for, and things that make me happy.  I live so well – I have a wonderful family, great friends, a roof over my head and money for groceries.  And even small things – eclectic coffee shops, a cozy sweater, a chance encounter with a cute boy – are reasons to be grateful.  Those wow I’m lucky moments pass so quickly, and before you know it I’m back on autopilot, thinking about registration for classes, or what I’ll make for dinner, or that I really should call my dad.

So here’s to 100 days of focussing on the good stuff; 2017 is going to be one happy year.

wishing you all the happiness – L

NETFLIX AND CHILL? six shows you should probably be binge watching

Writing this from the airport feels like being in a parallel universe; no one here knows who I am or what I do. My mom may have paid for my flight in airmiles and I may have hardly any blog followers, but right now I am a big-city girl creating content for my blog in the waiting area of the airport, wearing real doc. martin’s (thanks dad!) and drinking black coffee. And the funny part is, all of that is true – it’s all about how you spin it.

I’m quite content here (now that I finally got a coffee), but if I could I would definitely prefer to be lying in bed binge watching tv shows – guilt free, now that I have no homework! If you’ve got a little extra time on your hands now (and you’d like to spend it in your underwear offering nothing to society), here are six shows you’ve gotta see.

SHAMELESS (Season 5)

1. Shameless (US). Based on the UK series by the same name, Shameless follows the life of the Gallagers – a family living in the South Side of Chicago. The six kids, led by the oldest daughter Fiona, fight a million battles while they try to find their face in the world. It’s dramatic and aggressive and very very sexual, but it’s also oddly heartwarming and features a decent amount of diversity – win!
Plus Lip, the oldest son, is a total dreamy badboy. Mmm….

2. Scandal. Remember when I told you all to watch Scandal? Well I’m telling you again, because it’s just so good. So… SCANDALOUS. Olivia Pope leads a troupe of lawyers-turned-”problem-solvers” in a mission to help keep people out of all different sorts of trouble.

Oh, also she’s boning the president.
IT’S MADNESS.

3. American Horror Story. AHS is an anthology series – aka each season is a totally different story – and admittedly some seasons are better than others. Season One, dubbed “Murder House”, is easily the best (but maybe that’s got more to do with an adorable blonde Evan Peters playing a psycho teenager than anything else). Besides Murder House, there is Asylum, Coven, Freak Show, Hotel, and the latest season, Roanoke. If you love being in constant fear, this is the show for you! Just uh… don’t watch it with your parents in the room; trust me, it’s not fun.

4. Criminal Minds. An oldie, but a goodie. The characters are so lovable, and the stories are so disturbingly fascinating. I promise I’m not a psycho but honestly I just love a good murder mystery; especially the creepy ones. Speaking of which…

5. Law & Order: SVU. Basically just Criminal Minds, only featuring more lawyers, and also Mariska Hargitay. This one features super creepy criminals and legal proceedings! I love a good court scene. I’m sure you’ve all seen this show, but if you’ve never taken the time to really get into it I recommend it highly. I feel like it’s left on in the background at everyone’s grandma’s house but you never get to love Rafael Barba’s life if you don’t take it off mute.

6. Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries. I’ve told you about this one before too, but it bears repeating; this show is everything. The OUTFITS!!! Not to mention the amazing characters, and the feminist undertones. My favourite moment thus far is when some guy says to Miss Fisher “you women are all the same,” and she quirks one eyebrow like the little minx that she is and says “I’m quite sure we’re not”.
And yes – more murders.

There are two themes here and they are murders and cute boys. Good to know!

If you also enjoy either (or both) of those things, let me know what you think of my list – and what I should watch next! Also please suggest things that I could do with my abundant time off that do not involve lying in my bed – I’m ready to spread my wings, ya know?

Until next time – L

 

** update: I just got home from the airport; it’s 1:30am in Toronto, but of course being on victoria time (3 hours behind) I am wide awake.  AND I have the whole house to myself; very liberating and a little bit lonely.

TV: please like me.

I’ve decided that if my life were a tv show it would be one of those really dry, ironic sitcoms.  I’m definitely not british, but for some reason I feel like my television self would be.

Ever since my last blog post about how I’m not really a very lifestyle blogger-y type of woman, I’ve really quite embraced the fact that my life is a mess.  I’m just… leaning in.  Tonight leaning in looks like me lying in bed at 6am watching netflix.  I tried sleep, I promise, but that was not successful.  Then I started cleaning my room, but cleaning is boring and I only got about half way before deciding I needed to send a very important email to the head of my faculty at school… and now here I am.

Why?  Why am I here?  Well because I have to tell you about my new favourite show, obviously.

Please Like Me is exactly the TV show my life would be – even the name is relatable!  The premise bears absolutely no resemblance at all to my real life – the show is about a twenty year old boy who discovers he’s gay and then has to move in with his suicidal mother.  You would think nothing about this would be remotely relatable for me, but there’s something weirdly comforting about it.  It’s Australian, not British, but it still has the whole dry, ironic thing going for it.  And it’s also pretty realistic, much more than any other twentysomething comedy I’ve found on netflix; afterall I just watched our super gay, very weird, twenty-one year old protagonist pour wine into one wine glass and one mason jar because, really, what house of students has more than one actual wine glass?  Of course, I’ve never actually seen anyone on the show study, but then again based on my current situation, that’s seeming quite realistic as well.

tumblr_mz9x8pzv0v1qdfl3so1_500
so Real and Relatable ™

What’s less realistic about it, at least when it’s compared to my life, is the fact that everyone is always… dating people?

Is it sad that I, as a relatively not bad looking twenty year old woman, find that an unrealistic standard to live up to?

I’m thinking a lot about my singleness lately.

I’ve been single for quite some time now, and it doesn’t really bother me for the most part.  In fact, when I think about dating someone – all the talking and the communicating and the worrying about other people’s needs… always having to tell your partner what you’re doing.  I just don’t find it that appealing.  Quite frankly I have yet to find somebody worth that much trouble.

It is a lot of trouble isn’t it?

But all that (I’ve just reread that paragraph and realized that “that” is referring to what is obviously my stone cold heart) aside, the question remains… how is everyone finding all of these… dateable (or at least fuckable) human beings?  Because I just can’t.

Even just, like, a person I could hang out with that I find relatively attractive?  Someone who could be here, currently, being annoyed by me and my inability to sleep.  Is that really so much to ask?  I mean, the guy in this show is really, truthfully, not a good looking guy… and he always manages to find cute boys to hang out with.  If this weird little gay australian guy can find multiple hot guys to hook up with then goddammit I should be able to too!

But alas, I cannot.

I’m not sure yet if the problem is that my standards are too high, I don’t know where to meet people, or I’m just much less attractive than I originally believed, but whatever it is, it’s making life difficult.  I’m quite over it.

How does anyone actually meet anyone?  How do you find a person whose views and wants and interests align with yours?  Does that even happen in real life?

Anyway, at this point it’s 7:30 in the morning and I’ve been up all night.  The answer to my problems seems to be to go to the grocery store (braving the snowy conditions) and buy bacon and eggs and a nice loaf of bread and some other delicious foods, and then probably come home and study and consider how I can survive the next week of my life.
There might be some crying at some point, too.

Ahhh yes, that felt like a good honest blog post.  Hard to tell when you haven’t slept though.

Happy Monday! – L

A FEW OF MY FAVOURITE THINGS | Blogmas Day 4

2016-12-04 09.42.16 1.jpg

Here are a few (totally cheap) current obsessions of mine.

  1. honey face masks!  My lovely friend Sarah recommended this to me, as did my mom.  It makes my skin feel wonderful and smooth, and I believe it’s even helped with the redness.  Wow!  So simple – so good.
  2. a nice fresh mani/pedi – done from the comfort of my bedroom of course.  I bought this little nail kit on sale at Rexall a while ago.  Usually I just clip my nails and paint them, but sometimes it’s necessary to go through all the steps – if for no reason other than feeling fancy.
  3. dark chocolate with orange.  So delicious.
  4. Egyptian Musk essential oil.  A little dab on the wrists and behind the ears smells amazing.  It’s super cheap, and something about it just makes me feel good, y’know?
  5. Tea. Obviously.  It’s warm and cozy an delicious and I just… love tea.
  6. Most importantly?  Oh. My. God.  GUYS.  Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries…. you have to watch it!!!  I am obsessed.  SO GOOD.  A 1920s flapper woman in Melbourne solving mysteries, having sex with all the hot men, wearing all the amazing outfits.  She speaks four languages.  She gas a gun tucked into her garter.  She is full of light and love and joy, in spite of the difficult times she has seen.  She is my idol.

OH, and just so you know – I’ve added a bit of Christmas cheer to my bedroom.  Are you proud?

2016-12-04 10.10.23 1.jpg

Thought you’d want to know.

Anything you guys are loving lately?  Happy Blogmas!

– L

 

TV: i’m obsessed with scandal.

alternatively titled “I have been watching Scandal all day instead of writing blog posts or studying”

I’m sure it will come as a shocking surprise to everyone that today, my Ultimate Day of Productivity, turned into the Ultimate Day of Sleeping In, Eating Snacks, and Watching Netflix.  My to do list was full of boring school things but also, more importantly, writing a good blog post.  However, that dream was swept away the moment I sat down to paint my nails and figured I’d put Scandal on in the background.

Have you guys watched this show?  what is even happening???  I’m freaking out.  At the end of every single episode I’m, like, hunched over my computer with my mouth hanging open.  It’s horrendous.  And just when I think nothing else could possibly go wrong, something does!  

2016-09-25 07.51.32 1.jpg

and I think my life is a mess… damn.  Poor Olivia.

Anyway, this post really exists solely because I have some very important things to say about this show.

  1. if anyone deserves to be tagging their instagram posts #thehustle, it’s Olivia Pope.  Seriously does that woman ever sleep?  I bet she has an epic morning routine.
  2. one time my friend Kelly said, and I quote, “Fitz is, like, the whole reason I’m into silver foxes.”  And okay, when I first set out on the journey that is this show I wasn’t really into it, but now… damn.  Fitz can get it.
  3. How does everyone always look so amazing?
  4. is the world really this corrupt?  I know the answer is probably yes, and that is terrifying.  Do you think I’m wrong to hope Canada is somehow better?
  5. Kerry Washington is a megababe.  Legs for days.
  6. Chemistry is everything to me… this show is very good at it.

If you’ve watched Scandal, please tell me your thoughts!  Also, recommendations of other shows to binge watch when I should be doing important stuff?

Hope everyone’s ready for Monday!  (I am not.)

– L