October has arrived, and at least here in Toronto it has brought a chill with it. I for one am ready to bust out my scarves and sweaters and make the switch back to HOT coffee. Are you?
My mantra, as of late, has been let go of what no longer serves you. I suggest you all take this month to do the same — a boy (or a girl), a job, or anger over that THING that happened to you three years ago. Maybe all three, if you’re feeling ambitious. The best way to move forward, I’ve decided, is to put yourself smack in the path of what you want — and what you need.
In other news, the completely lovely Emily Koopman has launched a new website. It’s called Girls Help Girls, and it’s all about badass women empowering, uplifting, and inspiring each other. Annie E. Clark, the incredibly inspiring co-founder of End Rape On Campus took the time to chat with me during the summer, and her interview will be live on GHG very soon — make sure you go check it out!
Also, broken record I know, but I have a new posting schedule… a very chill one. New posts are coming to you on Fridays, and on the first of the month. That’s it. I’ve been waiting for the beginning of October (one of my favourite months) to unveil this plan to you because school has been nuts, and I figured there’s already been a significant absence of…. me… so what’s a few more weeks?
I likely have an all-nighter to pull tonight (whoops), so I’d better get off my butt and get to work — but I will see you all on Friday. Happy Autumn!
I have to be honest, I haven’t logged in to WordPress in a WHILE… but today seemed like the right day. Maybe I wouldn’t even post anything; maybe I would just take a peek around. Lord knows I must have missed a thousand new posts by some of my favourite bloggers, and being incredibly nosey I must know what everyone is doing always. So yeah, I was sitting around in my pjs and I thought… let’s just see what’s going on over there. And it turns out… it’s my birthday?
Well, MOMPUNK’s birthday. Which might even be better, if you ask me.
It’s funny, a part of me feels disappointed… like I’ve been at this a full year and if I had just been consistently putting in the effort, I could be a lot farther along. But another big part of me is quite pleased with how things are going around here. I’ve found a rhythm that works for me, a stronger voice than I started out with, and a new hobby that, massive success or not, has been a great deal of fun. Truth is I love playing the part of blogger (and, dare I say – writer???). And I think I’ll continue.
…and I’m officially getting my biggest, most favourite fresh start…… the new school year. Is it any wonder that we ring in the new school during virgo season? I don’t know about you guys, but I am truly feeling a deep desire to clean my room, colour code my notes, fill in my calendar, start a new diet…. you know, just virgo things.
This month I’m using that energy to create a big, juicy year for myself. Lauryn Evarts from The Skinny Confidential calls this creating a strategic future by design — and I am about it. I have a bit of a tendency to let things just HAPPEN, and that’s been fine… but it’s never more than fine. It’s always once you start hustling (or whatever dumb trendy word you want to use) that things start to really fall into place. You need to have a vision of what you want before you can make it happen.
Exciting news is coming, life is changing, and I can’t wait to show you pictures of my new room!!! in the mean time, I suggest that you watch this video and consider making your bed in the mornings; I’ve been doing it and I love the energy it establishes for the rest of my day. Plus, like the video says, coming home to a fresh made bed is incredibly comforting.
Wishing you all a sweet, sweet september,
PS, here’s your (okay, well, my) anthem for the month:
I haven’t done a first of the month post since MARCH… but with one month left of summer, and so much to reflect on, it felt like a good time to pick the habit back up.
July was… a weird month for me. It started off strong — I was working lots, seeing lots of friends, meeting new people, drinking more than my fair share of organic apple ciders on various downtown patios. It was exhausting, but also kind of magic — my bustling big city life was all coming together.
Then I lost my job.
Well, okay, one of my jobs… but still, it threw a bit of a wrench into my plans.
I needed a bit of time to soothe my ego – truth be told, it’s still a little bruised. But last night I had the realization that holy shit there’s only a month left of summer. And honestly, it freaked me out a little.
I guess this month is a good reminder that the end of things is not the time to give up. Summer is ending, and 2017 is more than half over, and it kind of feels like it’s going out with a bit of a… fizzle? Like I could just sit here and wait for the next thing, wait for school to start or the New Year New Me buzz to kick in. Wait for that excitement to bring me back to life. But why?
This morning was good for me — I drank my coffee, I read my horoscope, and I refocussed. It’s never a good time to give up. It’s never a good time to wait. Why wait for the next thing?
This month, it’s all about focus. Enjoying the now. And keeping in mind that, hey, summer ain’t over yet.
How are you making the most of your last month of summer? Soak up that sunshine.
Let’s get real; no one washes their hair anymore. Is anyone still pretending they wash daily? I’m not.
Can’t lie, though – sometimes the situation gets a little dire. A day or two is good, but after that it’s just a mess up there. Thankfully I’ve gotten pretty damn good at hiding it — adorable pin-up girl style.
front + back view all in one… inception
It’s simple, quick, effective, and cute. Here’s the breakdown.
you need: bobby pins, dry shampoo, a teasing comb, a hair elastic, and a cute bandana (or scarf).
1. dry shampoo your hair, brush it through, and tease your roots. 2. pull your hair into a ponytail at the top of your head — give it a little tug so the elastic isn’t too tight; you’re not going for the slicked back look. 3. tease the ponytail, then roll the hair backward and pin it down. As someone with relatively short hair I find this is the best way to make a nice full looking bun. 4. fold your bandana and tie it, then tuck the ends in. I like to leave it fairly wide at the back. 5. add a few pins to keep it in place.
BAM, your greasy roots are hidden from the world and you look adorable. Add a pop of red lipstick to really give yourself some vintage flair – the one I have on is The Red from Sephora.
Oh, and btw, please please please do not waste 20 dollars buying a bandana from Aldo -you can get one like this at the dollar store for, you guessed it, a dollar. They have all sorts of colours. Just don’t tell anyone I buy my hair accessories from Dollarama, k? That can be our little secret.
I’m currently on a bus (YES, this bus has WIFI!!!!) to Stratford (Biebs’ hometown, for the record) for a visit with a friend and of course to see a show at the Stratford festival. I’ve never been before, but I’m beyond excited. Summer adventures, here I come! I definitely won’t be washing my hair while I’m there so the world is about to see a lot of bandana moments.
I’ve been kind of obsessing over lilac highlighter lately. It’s just so… magical-looking. It’s high fashion and it’s edgy and it’s different but somehow it’s still not weird, you know? I love toeing that line.
So yeah, I decided it’s time to bite the bullet and try one out.
I have my fair share of powder highlighters, so I went for something new – the Milk holographic stick in supernova. And – yeah, it’s super.
but before I go on… can we talk about the fact that there is actual stardust in this stuff? Like, really. Don’t believe me? Check the website.
Anyway, magical stardust aside, this stuff is fabulous.
It’s chocked full of mango butter, coconut and avocado oil, and something the website calls “twilight pearls”. Whatever those are, they lend your skin a gorgeous dewy glow in a luminous lilac colour that is TO. DIE. FOR.
A little dab is natural and dewy and delicious. A few layers? BAM glowy unicorn goddess.
My only complaint is that if you swipe this on over your foundation it can move your base around a bit; best way to counter it? Swipe it over your finger and dab it on your cheeks. I also like to give my foundation a bit of time to dry on my skin before I go in with this product – it just seems to work better.
What do you think about the holographic highlighter trend? Are you as into it as I am? What’s your fave?
ANYWAY, I’m back on the Scandal bandwagon, so I’m gunna toast an everything bagel and continue watching the US government destroy itself…. you know, not that it’s remotely realistic, or anything.
love + stardust,
PS, how cute are these beaded bracelets? I bought the supplies at Michaels yesterday and have been beading up a storm ever since.
I hang out by myself a lot. Some of my friends think it’s weird, but honestly I’ve realized that sometimes if you want to do something you have to do it alone. Whether you feel like treating yourself or you just want to get your ass out of the house and all your friends are busy, taking yourself on a sexy solo date is kind of the ultimate indulgence… at least, I think so.
I know it feels awkward sometimes, but honestly… it’s okay. Even if you get a little nervous or awkward or uncomfortable. It’s all cool baby. Not everything has to be a group activity — not all the time.
If you’re ready to dip your toes into the world of solo hangs then this post is for you. Here are my five favourite solo dates to go on.
I promise once you get used to it you’ll never want to stop.
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coffee. Coffee is first on the list because it’s the easiest, and also because I just… love coffee? It’s cheap, it’s simple, and literally no one thinks it’s a weird thing to do by yourself. Grab a book, a journal, or your laptop (maybe all three?) and set out on a mission to find the cutest, coziest cafe in your neighbourhood. If you’re in Toronto try out literally any Jimmy’s — they’re all the cutest. I frequent the one in Kensington (everything in Kensington is so kitschy and fun), but the cutest one is probably the one at Ossington and Queen. I also love love love The Common on Bloor W (and it’s, like, half the price of Starbucks).
hit a concert. Okay, people act like this is a crazy thing to do alone but honestly it’s perfect. Think about it — once the music starts you can’t talk to anyone anyway. If you’re on your own you don’t have to worry about losing your friends in the crowd, or embarrassing yourself with your extremely off-key singing. It’s easier to work your way to the front when you’re alone. And anyway if you go to enough small local shows you start to see some familiar faces. Since I’ve lived in Toronto I’ve probably gone to a dozen shows by myself and I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.
get your beach on. Sometimes it’s really nice to just put on your cute bikini, slap on a big floppy hat and some sunscreen, and lie in the sun……. alone. Bring a book or a trashy magazine (or I guess a non-trashy magazine, if you really must), and work on that tan, girl. Don’t forget to pack snacks.
museums + art galleries for days. One of the things I was most excited about when I moved to Toronto was the abundance of galleries and museums that I’d finally have access to. One problem? None of my friends are quite as enthralled. I guess when you grow up here, going to the museum sounds less like an awesome adventure and more like your third grade field trip. Anyway, museums and galleries are sick by yourself because you don’t have to look at anything you don’t want to, you don’t have to leave anywhere you’re not ready to leave, and you can walk as slow or as fast as you want. Feel like reading every plaque under every painting? Guess what – that is your perogative.
one of my favourite paintings at the AGO
outside the ROM
take yourself out for brunch. Yep. This is at the end of the list because I know it’s the hardest. Even for me, an experienced self-date-r. It’s kind of scary to eat alone because what can you really occupy yourself with when you have a plate of eggs benny in front of you? First of all, the answer is eavesdropping. But second of all, who cares? I usually bring my laptop to “get some work done” (what does this even mean? everyone knows I’m just scrolling through twitter. I don’t have an adult job.) or maybe a book. At least that way everyone gets the message that I planned to go alone. The first time is scary, but I promise you it’s really lovely. You can chat up your server, spy on people, and eat a delicious meal. I don’t know why but brunch is my favourite meal to eat alone — and if you go on a weekday you’ll probably have the place mostly to yourself. OH, and for the record? I’m writing this from one of my fave Parkdale brunch spots, Easy, and there are three other people also here by themselves.
Honestly guys… you can do this. It might make you nervous, but once you start you won’t want to stop. And hey, if you feel awkward, just do what I do – fake it. That’s all anyone’s really doing at any given time, isn’t it?