I haven’t done a first of the month post since MARCH… but with one month left of summer, and so much to reflect on, it felt like a good time to pick the habit back up.
July was… a weird month for me. It started off strong — I was working lots, seeing lots of friends, meeting new people, drinking more than my fair share of organic apple ciders on various downtown patios. It was exhausting, but also kind of magic — my bustling big city life was all coming together.
Then I lost my job.
Well, okay, one of my jobs… but still, it threw a bit of a wrench into my plans.
I needed a bit of time to soothe my ego – truth be told, it’s still a little bruised. But last night I had the realization that holy shit there’s only a month left of summer. And honestly, it freaked me out a little.
I guess this month is a good reminder that the end of things is not the time to give up. Summer is ending, and 2017 is more than half over, and it kind of feels like it’s going out with a bit of a… fizzle? Like I could just sit here and wait for the next thing, wait for school to start or the New Year New Me buzz to kick in. Wait for that excitement to bring me back to life. But why?
This morning was good for me — I drank my coffee, I read my horoscope, and I refocussed. It’s never a good time to give up. It’s never a good time to wait. Why wait for the next thing?
This month, it’s all about focus. Enjoying the now. And keeping in mind that, hey, summer ain’t over yet.
How are you making the most of your last month of summer? Soak up that sunshine.
Let’s get real; no one washes their hair anymore. Is anyone still pretending they wash daily? I’m not.
Can’t lie, though – sometimes the situation gets a little dire. A day or two is good, but after that it’s just a mess up there. Thankfully I’ve gotten pretty damn good at hiding it — adorable pin-up girl style.
front + back view all in one… inception
It’s simple, quick, effective, and cute. Here’s the breakdown.
you need: bobby pins, dry shampoo, a teasing comb, a hair elastic, and a cute bandana (or scarf).
1. dry shampoo your hair, brush it through, and tease your roots. 2. pull your hair into a ponytail at the top of your head — give it a little tug so the elastic isn’t too tight; you’re not going for the slicked back look. 3. tease the ponytail, then roll the hair backward and pin it down. As someone with relatively short hair I find this is the best way to make a nice full looking bun. 4. fold your bandana and tie it, then tuck the ends in. I like to leave it fairly wide at the back. 5. add a few pins to keep it in place.
BAM, your greasy roots are hidden from the world and you look adorable. Add a pop of red lipstick to really give yourself some vintage flair – the one I have on is The Red from Sephora.
Oh, and btw, please please please do not waste 20 dollars buying a bandana from Aldo -you can get one like this at the dollar store for, you guessed it, a dollar. They have all sorts of colours. Just don’t tell anyone I buy my hair accessories from Dollarama, k? That can be our little secret.
I’m currently on a bus (YES, this bus has WIFI!!!!) to Stratford (Biebs’ hometown, for the record) for a visit with a friend and of course to see a show at the Stratford festival. I’ve never been before, but I’m beyond excited. Summer adventures, here I come! I definitely won’t be washing my hair while I’m there so the world is about to see a lot of bandana moments.
I’ve been kind of obsessing over lilac highlighter lately. It’s just so… magical-looking. It’s high fashion and it’s edgy and it’s different but somehow it’s still not weird, you know? I love toeing that line.
So yeah, I decided it’s time to bite the bullet and try one out.
I have my fair share of powder highlighters, so I went for something new – the Milk holographic stick in supernova. And – yeah, it’s super.
but before I go on… can we talk about the fact that there is actual stardust in this stuff? Like, really. Don’t believe me? Check the website.
Anyway, magical stardust aside, this stuff is fabulous.
It’s chocked full of mango butter, coconut and avocado oil, and something the website calls “twilight pearls”. Whatever those are, they lend your skin a gorgeous dewy glow in a luminous lilac colour that is TO. DIE. FOR.
A little dab is natural and dewy and delicious. A few layers? BAM glowy unicorn goddess.
My only complaint is that if you swipe this on over your foundation it can move your base around a bit; best way to counter it? Swipe it over your finger and dab it on your cheeks. I also like to give my foundation a bit of time to dry on my skin before I go in with this product – it just seems to work better.
What do you think about the holographic highlighter trend? Are you as into it as I am? What’s your fave?
ANYWAY, I’m back on the Scandal bandwagon, so I’m gunna toast an everything bagel and continue watching the US government destroy itself…. you know, not that it’s remotely realistic, or anything.
love + stardust,
PS, how cute are these beaded bracelets? I bought the supplies at Michaels yesterday and have been beading up a storm ever since.
I hang out by myself a lot. Some of my friends think it’s weird, but honestly I’ve realized that sometimes if you want to do something you have to do it alone. Whether you feel like treating yourself or you just want to get your ass out of the house and all your friends are busy, taking yourself on a sexy solo date is kind of the ultimate indulgence… at least, I think so.
I know it feels awkward sometimes, but honestly… it’s okay. Even if you get a little nervous or awkward or uncomfortable. It’s all cool baby. Not everything has to be a group activity — not all the time.
If you’re ready to dip your toes into the world of solo hangs then this post is for you. Here are my five favourite solo dates to go on.
I promise once you get used to it you’ll never want to stop.
Processed with VSCO with f2 preset
Processed with VSCO with f2 preset
coffee. Coffee is first on the list because it’s the easiest, and also because I just… love coffee? It’s cheap, it’s simple, and literally no one thinks it’s a weird thing to do by yourself. Grab a book, a journal, or your laptop (maybe all three?) and set out on a mission to find the cutest, coziest cafe in your neighbourhood. If you’re in Toronto try out literally any Jimmy’s — they’re all the cutest. I frequent the one in Kensington (everything in Kensington is so kitschy and fun), but the cutest one is probably the one at Ossington and Queen. I also love love love The Common on Bloor W (and it’s, like, half the price of Starbucks).
hit a concert. Okay, people act like this is a crazy thing to do alone but honestly it’s perfect. Think about it — once the music starts you can’t talk to anyone anyway. If you’re on your own you don’t have to worry about losing your friends in the crowd, or embarrassing yourself with your extremely off-key singing. It’s easier to work your way to the front when you’re alone. And anyway if you go to enough small local shows you start to see some familiar faces. Since I’ve lived in Toronto I’ve probably gone to a dozen shows by myself and I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.
get your beach on. Sometimes it’s really nice to just put on your cute bikini, slap on a big floppy hat and some sunscreen, and lie in the sun……. alone. Bring a book or a trashy magazine (or I guess a non-trashy magazine, if you really must), and work on that tan, girl. Don’t forget to pack snacks.
museums + art galleries for days. One of the things I was most excited about when I moved to Toronto was the abundance of galleries and museums that I’d finally have access to. One problem? None of my friends are quite as enthralled. I guess when you grow up here, going to the museum sounds less like an awesome adventure and more like your third grade field trip. Anyway, museums and galleries are sick by yourself because you don’t have to look at anything you don’t want to, you don’t have to leave anywhere you’re not ready to leave, and you can walk as slow or as fast as you want. Feel like reading every plaque under every painting? Guess what – that is your perogative.
one of my favourite paintings at the AGO
outside the ROM
take yourself out for brunch. Yep. This is at the end of the list because I know it’s the hardest. Even for me, an experienced self-date-r. It’s kind of scary to eat alone because what can you really occupy yourself with when you have a plate of eggs benny in front of you? First of all, the answer is eavesdropping. But second of all, who cares? I usually bring my laptop to “get some work done” (what does this even mean? everyone knows I’m just scrolling through twitter. I don’t have an adult job.) or maybe a book. At least that way everyone gets the message that I planned to go alone. The first time is scary, but I promise you it’s really lovely. You can chat up your server, spy on people, and eat a delicious meal. I don’t know why but brunch is my favourite meal to eat alone — and if you go on a weekday you’ll probably have the place mostly to yourself. OH, and for the record? I’m writing this from one of my fave Parkdale brunch spots, Easy, and there are three other people also here by themselves.
Honestly guys… you can do this. It might make you nervous, but once you start you won’t want to stop. And hey, if you feel awkward, just do what I do – fake it. That’s all anyone’s really doing at any given time, isn’t it?
To be honest, we haven’t talked, period, in so long… but hey, life happens. I’ll tell you all about it in a few.
First, though, let me just tell you that if you, like me, have been living under a giant rock recently… you need to jump on the bandwagon with these guys – they’re called SWMRS. They put a gritty, edgy twist on pop-punk – or maybe a sweet, sun-drenched, melodic twist on regular punk? Hard to say exactly what it is, but I’m into it either way.
Check out their last album Drive North on spotify and let me know what you think!
The internet loves to talk about self care. What’s your self care routine? We ask each other constantly, as if looking after yourself is as simple as a nightly facemask and a cup of peppermint tea.
The truth is, self care comes in a million different shapes and sizes. Some nights it’s a cup of tea, and sometimes it’s a bottle of wine, ya know? Sure, taking a hot bath and spending the evening painting watercolours in your silky robe is an act of self love (I mean, if you’re into that kind of thing…). BUT it’s not always exactly the most practical option. We don’t always have the time or the funds to pamper ourselves — not in the ways that instagram would have us believe we should, at least. But does the fact that I work every day, or that I can’t afford to go on magical vacations and glamorous outings mean I can’t participate in the fun and fabulous world of self love?
Hell to the nah.
I find a lot of ways to love myself – some frivolous and fun, and some a little more practical. Eating a salad can be self care too, after all. SO, here we go; 10 ways to practice self care in the real world. Some of them require a little more time than others, but I promise you they are all very real, super cheap (or free), and incredibly satisfying.
✨ snuggle yourself into the covers and read your horoscope before you get out of bed. I like the astrotwins, but you have to find a source that works for you.
✨ drink a glass of water. Squeeze in a bit of lemon or toss in some mint leaves, if you can.
✨ put some oil in your hair. I am currently obsessed with this one because it smells amazing and is working wonders for my hair.
✨ eat something REAL. I don’t know about you but I tend to get caught up in life and forget about, y’know… food. Real food, I mean. Cook yourself a meal, make yourself a smoothie, or at least grab an apple.
✨ spritz yourself with your favourite perfume and throw on some lipstick. I don’t care if you’re doing anything fancy afterward or not, nothing will make you feel “together” faster.
✨ go for a walk. Maybe try some walking meditation, while you’re at it — or just throw in your headphones and turn your favourite song loud.
✨ answer your emails. Not exactly glamorous but as someone who currently has 126 unread messages in their inbox, I can tell you that it is a constant stressor.
✨ exfoliate. Am I the only one that finds exfoliating super satisfying when I’m having a bad day? It’s like you can feel the bullshit going down the drain.
✨ grab your journal, and leave your phone and your laptop at home. Take yourself on a coffee date and just write.
✨ paint your nails. Nothing like a fresh mani to make you feel like a whole new woman, am I right?
SO lovelies, tell me… how do you look after yourself when you have Real Life happening? Would love some things to add to my list.
Writer’s block is really punching me in the face lately, and I’m not loving it. Bear with me, because this is going to be incoherent.
My friend Kelly uses every hip slang word/phrase ever, and lately her word of the moment is shameless. As in “yes that outfit is shameless” or “I wish I could post this on insta but I’m just not shameless enough” or… well, you get the picture. And I like it, actually, because it makes me think about living my most shameless life. And unfortunately I am so boring that for the most part that just means posting more on social media… and a little bit of wearing less/going out more, ya know.
I think a lot of the time the less you write, the less you feel motivated to write. Especially when it comes to something like a blog where your only measurable “success” comes from the number of people engaging with you and the number of people engaging with you depends on how present you are…
The longer I go without writing, or posting a snapchat story, or tweeting something, the more I stress about it. Like, now it’s not just a post it’s a damn comeback, and I’m not ready for it. But if I would just GO FOR IT every once in a while maybe it wouldn’t be so hard. If I made snapchat stories (or god forbid instagram stories) every day, then it wouldn’t feel like such a big deal. If I wrote shameless blog posts about my mediocre make up looks and my favourite body wash and whatever other stupid shit I’m doing then I wouldn’t have to think so hard about how to reappear on the internet all the time… you know?
I have posted one instagram story in my life, and I was quite honestly pretty intoxicated… but I think that’s something I will be doing from now on — follow along here! (shameless plug). I’ll be writing things that I don’t think anyone but me cares about — because yolo, why not? And you know, just in general, I’m going to start showing off, living life, and being my fabulous, most shameless self.
Why not, right?
For the record I fully support any and all shameless posts by you guys, so pls link me to wherever you get the most wild — insta, snapchat, your blog, etc. I need friends, you know.
ANYWAY what have you all been up to? I started a new job a few weeks ago as a receptionist at a wax bar, hence the radio silence. Between that and my other job, I’ve been running around like a mad woman lately. I think I’m finally starting to get into the swing of things, though — thank god. And of course I’ve been finding time for patio drinks, cute coffee shops, and the odd night out. Sleep is not high on the priority list at the moment but, hey, I’m young. What’s new with YOU?